How to Enjoy The Other Side of Success with Jeremy Delk
By Yuresh Shayzer
September 05, 2023
In today’s episode, our guest is Jeremy Delk. He has a remarkable life story, having lost his father at just seven years old. He's navigated through the ups and downs of business, even exciting companies worth hundreds of millions of dollars. What sets him apart is how he's maintained a strong connection to his heart throughout this journey. Today, we'll explore his experiences, from overcoming adversity to achieving success, and the valuable lessons he's learned along the way. We'll also touch on what it means to find true success while balancing family life and passing on those lessons.
[2:25] Why should I listen to you?
I think the 43-year-old me would have a different answer than the 20-year-old me. I have this genuine curiosity that will help me in business so much. But I have a curiosity about people, and I love learning. I really love helping. I think that's the biggest piece. So, you should listen to me because I'm going to come from the right place. I'm not going to try to sell you a pitch or something like that. I'm just going to be genuinely curious.
[3:28] When did your curiosity start to build up?
I hail from Bardstown, and growing up in this small town, I had a persistent yearning to explore beyond my comfortable surroundings. At the age of seven, my world was shattered when my father tragically lost his life in a motorbike accident. This event, though not unique in the context of loss, catapulted my family into a state of immense instability. My mom, a young single mother, suddenly found herself responsible for two small kids. It was a daunting transition for all of us. This period of instability left an indelible mark on my psyche. It forged in me a fierce determination never to return to such uncertainty. I became driven by the desire for stability and resources, fueling my journey into adulthood. As I matured, I made my fair share of mistakes, experienced both success and failure and evolved into someone with a voracious appetite for learning. I became addicted to the process, relishing in curiosity, listening intently, and eventually becoming a subject matter expert. That curiosity remains the driving force behind my journey.
[7:12] What would be your desired topic of conversation?
Opening a conversation by asking someone about themselves, their aspirations, and ambitions is incredibly powerful. People tend to open up, sharing dreams and goals. The follow-up question, often about actions taken, reveals two distinct profiles: those who've progressed and those making excuses. Entrepreneurs thrive on action, but self-imposed obstacles, like fear of failure or external judgment, frequently obstruct progress. Helping individuals recognize and overcome these mental barriers is transformative. The objective is to encourage them to take that first step, regardless of perceived obstacles, and keep moving forward. These initial actions are the foundation for lasting change.
[9:35] How do you help somebody navigate past those roadblocks, and barriers such as self-inflicted excuses?
Helping someone embark on a new venture begins with understanding their "why." Regardless of the industry, this foundational question is pivotal. Many may say they want to start a business to be wealthy, but we dig deeper to uncover their genuine motivations. Is it about financial freedom, quality time with family, or a true calling? The core reason must be visceral and compelling. It's not about buying happiness with material possessions; it's about fulfilling a deeper purpose. Once this authentic drive is found, it becomes the unstoppable force propelling them forward, leaving external opinions and doubts behind.
[27:30] Have you ever been worried about losing because the current situation is good?
My transition from New York's bustling energy to Kentucky was an eye-opener. It made me realize that some friends hadn't ventured far from their comfort zones. I have a passion for both building and fixing things, but I've also learned the importance of letting others take the reins once a project is up and running. However, my biggest worry, shared by many, is ensuring my children don't grow up entitled. I want them to understand the value of hard work and perseverance. Instilling good habits and a strong work ethic is crucial; I'd rather not raise entitled individuals. This concern outweighs most others.
[37:20] What is the purpose and message behind your book?
The book, "Without a Plan," is my memoir of the past two decades in the business world. It's a raw account of my journey, including turning down multi-million-dollar offers and facing rapid successes and failures. It delves into both professional and personal aspects, touching on experiences like marriage therapy and trauma exploration related to my father. The overarching message is to take action and begin your journey, whatever it may be. Life is unpredictable, and tomorrow isn't guaranteed. Embrace failure as a learning opportunity; it's where growth happens. Don't let the fear of others' opinions hold you back. People are busy with their lives, and your failures don't define you in their eyes. It's your journey, so own it and keep moving forward.
[43:27] What promise did God make to the world when he created you?
To tell a story about the importance of being authentic.
[17:30-17:33] What is important to you should be all that matters
[20:50-20:52] Humans are happiest in motion
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